Being a Parent

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Raising kids is not same as raising chickens. Providing them with food and shelter is not enough. Children need more than that.

They need your love and your time. Let me put it this way. Love does not translate as ‘material things’. Love is not for sale. You cannot ‘buy’ love and give it to your child. Home is the first school. The child learns as he grows. By showering a child with material love, you are pushing him away from understanding love in its true sense. I am not against buying things for children. However, I do not favor replacing love with these things.

When I mention spending time with your child, it does not mean being in the same house at the same time. You could be sitting on the same couch, yet not giving your time to the child. If your child is playing with his latest gadget, and you are busy with yours, the time is missing. The child needs to understand the real concept of time. People shall say they have no time. They are working hard for the family. I understand. But do you realize that those hard to spare few moments each day translate as ‘few years’? The next thing you realize would be the child’s absence.

If you want your child to listen to you, it has to start with you. And it has to begin early. You need to listen to your child. Try to satisfy your child’s curiosity with appropriate answers. Please avoid evasive responses.  Keep in mind that every ‘little’ thing to you is a ‘big’ thing for the child. Talk to your child about nothing and about everything. You are your child’s first contact. Build your trust and nurture this precious relationship as the years move forward.

Jasleen Chawla

Road to Happiness

GALLOP

The world has changed immensely over the past few decades, thanks to the new inventions, and the latest technology. While we are busy finding ways to grow our network(s), and connect to people across the globe, we have disconnected ourselves from our own self, and from those around us. “Happiness” seems to be lost on the way to achieving greater heights. Happiness lies within you. GALLOP to happiness!

Give others a reason to smile. It does not always have to be about “me”. There are countless ways of bringing a smile to the lips. For example, offer a helping hand at home (in the kitchen, with common chores), and outdoors (in crossing the road, carrying bags or other stuff, finding directions, giving a ride to a colleague, greeting with a smile, acknowledging others). These are just a few instances.

Accept others for who they are. We must embrace diversity and multiculturalism. Each individual is unique with his own abilities and talents. There should be no room for discrimination in any form. We should respect others as we wish to be respected.

Learn from your experiences. Humans make mistakes. It is not the end of the world. We must learn from our experiences (both bitter and sweet), and self-reflection is important to move forward as a more developed individual at the intellectual level.

Love the beautiful gift of life. Love yourself for who you are, love your family, love your friends, love your pets, love nature, love the people in this amazing world, and then love technology.

Open your mind to new ideas. We must allow a free flow of thoughts through our minds to receive the energy and the enthusiasm of this universe. Let the mind not be bound in some sort of self-styled chains.

Perform your best in every moment. We must put our heart, mind, and soul into everything we do. A task done half-heartedly does not lead to happiness. We must inculcate honesty, sincerity, and dedication.

Jasleen Chawla