Being a Parent


Raising kids is not same as raising chickens. Providing them with food and shelter is not enough. Children need more than that.

They need your love and your time. Let me put it this way. Love does not translate as ‘material things’. Love is not for sale. You cannot ‘buy’ love and give it to your child. Home is the first school. The child learns as he grows. By showering a child with material love, you are pushing him away from understanding love in its true sense. I am not against buying things for children. However, I do not favor replacing love with these things.

When I mention spending time with your child, it does not mean being in the same house at the same time. You could be sitting on the same couch, yet not giving your time to the child. If your child is playing with his latest gadget, and you are busy with yours, the time is missing. The child needs to understand the real concept of time. People shall say they have no time. They are working hard for the family. I understand. But do you realize that those hard to spare few moments each day translate as ‘few years’? The next thing you realize would be the child’s absence.

If you want your child to listen to you, it has to start with you. And it has to begin early. You need to listen to your child. Try to satisfy your child’s curiosity with appropriate answers. Please avoid evasive responses.  Keep in mind that every ‘little’ thing to you is a ‘big’ thing for the child. Talk to your child about nothing and about everything. You are your child’s first contact. Build your trust and nurture this precious relationship as the years move forward.

Jasleen Chawla