Is living a double life ‘cool’?

I have no intentions of hurting anyone. I came across this incident recently. It may not seem a big thing to some, but it bothered me so much that I decided to write about it. I see people living double lives: a real life and a fake life. It is amazing how they manage to do this really well. What I fail to understand is the reason for pretending what one is not. Surprisingly, not only is this found in adults but also in children in their pre-teens and teens. One needs to differentiate between “needs” and “wants” to live a happy balanced life. Victory of a “need” over a “want” leads to unhappiness. I cannot think of a need to drift away from the real. We need to be proud and grateful of who we are. Be truthful. Whom are we trying to convince and impress?

Two high school students, Amy and Marcus are good friends. Amy’s other friends do not consider Marcus to be of their “class”, and kind of dislike him. She does not have the courage to speak for him. Her friends do not know of the friendship between the two, but his friends know it. There are group chats on the social media. The girls ridicule Marcus. Amy is an active participant. Marcus is not pleased. His friends do not support him. They are blaming him for pulling down their reputation. One of the boys even goes on to say “R.I.P. Marcus, July 12, 2016, 9.40pm”. Another one adds “Have a funeral to go to tomorrow”. The group members leave the group one after the other as they are worried about their “image”. Imagine the stress Marcus is going through. Someone tries to comfort Marcus and his reply is “only if I survive”. Just writing this gives me the shivers. These children are living double lives at this tender age. They have a long way to go in life. Which life: the real or fake? It is their decision, but are they being educated to be wise decision makers? How well are we educating them to be successful in the real world?

Jasleen Chawla

(The names, date and time have been changed to protect privacy.)

Being Alive

Sky

I am alive because I am breathing and my heart is beating. But if one is healthy, is it enough? No, it is not. There is no doubt that money is important in life, and work is the source of that money. It is sad that the modern materialistic world has changed human priorities.

Look within yourself and think of this. When was the last time you really lived? When did you actually laugh out loud? I mean literally and not just typed “lol”. Have you gazed at the star studded moonlit sky? Have you felt the ocean touch your feet? Did the songs of the birds reach your ears? Have your eyes been treated to the sight of beautiful flowers? Have you met the amazing nature and imbibed its beauty- the trees, the leaves, butterflies, lakes, waterfalls, rainbows? When was the last time you danced to your heart’s content? How long has it been that you experienced the thrill of doing something for the first time?

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Your responses will tell you how alive you are. We should be thankful for this life. Each day is a new beginning that brings with it the chance to live the way we want. Let your past not hold you back from living in your amazing present. It is never too late to start living. We need to find time to enjoy life in its true sense. Live your life and feel the joy of living in the moment.

Jasleen Chawla